We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a
baby, than another. Then we are frustrated that the children aren't old enough
and we'll be more content when they are. After that we're frustrated that we
have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of
that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse
gets his or her act together. When we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice
vacation, when we retire. The truth is, there is no better time to be happy than
right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges.
Its best to admit this to yourself and be happy anyway. Alfred D. Souza said,
"For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real
life, but there was always some obstacle in the way, something to get through
first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid.
Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my
life". This perspective has helped me to see there is no way to happiness,
happiness is the way. So treasure every moment that you have, and treasure it
more because you shared it with someone special, and remember that time waits
for no one. So stop waiting until you finish school, until you loose ten pounds,
until you gain ten pounds, until you have children, until you get married, until
you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until your car or
until Winter, until you are off welfare, until, you've had a drink, until you've
sobered up, until you die, until you decide there is no better time than right
now to be happy. Happiness is a journey, not a destination. Work like you don't
need money, Love like you've never been hurt, and dance like no one is watching.
(And aren't we great dancers when no one is watching).
(thanks to Shoaib Khan [shabban at hotmail.com]) |